Painful Friendship: Super Hard To Be Friends With Someone You Love

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Have you ever fallen for someone you're afraid of expressing your feelings for but try to at least tell them you like them and want to be their friend?

You could have just told them that you love them and wanted to date them but you and I know what it takes: "courage"

If you don't have enough courage to say what you feel then you'll remain in pain as long as you still have the feelings.

Friendship is one of the most beautiful and fulfilling relationships one can have with one's crush but it's never enough even if it is a bond that is built on trust, mutual respect, and understanding. 

A true friend is someone who stands by your side through thick and thin, someone you can confide in and rely on. 

However, if your friend becomes a source of pain and heartache, especially when you have feelings for your friend that go beyond mere friendship.

Being friends with someone you love can be incredibly challenging and can even get you crazy. Sometimes you feel guilty about not expressing your feelings which makes you sad.

It is a delicate balance that requires you to navigate through a minefield of emotions and feelings. You may find yourself constantly questioning your own feelings, wondering if you are reading too much into every interaction or gesture. 

It can be difficult to separate your feelings from your friendship, and you may find yourself constantly analyzing every conversation and interaction you have with your friend, looking for signs that they feel the same way.

One of the most painful things about being friends with someone you love is the constant reminder that you cannot have them in the way you want. 

You may find yourself wishing that things were different, that you could be more than just friends, but knowing that it is not possible. This can lead to a feeling of helplessness and frustration, as you are unable to control your own emotions or the outcome of your friendship.

4 Reasons it's hard to make love with a friend you're crushing on:

1.  The fear of rejection

You may be afraid to confess your feelings to your friend, for fear that they will not feel the same way. The thought of losing their friendship, or worse, making things awkward and uncomfortable between you, can be terrifying. 

You may find yourself stuck in a state of limbo, unable to move forward with your feelings, but unable to ignore them either.

2. You have very strong feelings

If you have feelings for someone, it will be very hard to express them. The stronger your feelings the harder it is to speak up.

3. Your ego

If you hate being vulnerable, it might be difficult for you to have a relationship with your friend. Your ego will make you hide your feelings because you don't want to feel like the one asking for something.

Maybe you've been friends for a long time and have been known for some great qualities that make your crush feel like it's impossible for someone like you to have feelings for them because they're better girls out there. 

The risk of confessing your feelings might lead to disappointment or humiliation, but if the relationship is more important, then the choice is yours.

4. You care about what others say

What people will say might be a reason you won't be able to make love with a friend you're crushing on. Maybe you've been together and have been known as sisters and brothers because of the help you offer.

5. They're dating someone else

When you're crushing on your friend you will be unhappy or maybe jealous seeing them with someone else.

It's a very painful experience that can even make you suffer from anxiety and a sleepless night.

Despite all the pain and heartache that can come with a painful friendship, there are also moments of beauty and joy. 

You may find yourself cherishing every moment you spend with them, grateful for the time you have together. Even if your feelings are not reciprocated, you can still enjoy the warmth and comfort of a close friendship.

But what if I tell you there's a way out?

There's nothing bad about asking your friend out especially if they're single like you. Even if he or she already has a boyfriend or girlfriend, nothing can still stop you from expressing your feelings.

What if they're not happy with that relationship and also love you and are afraid to tell you too?

If you want to date a friend you're crushing on and don't have the courage to go straight to the point then you need to express your love indirectly before directly.

1. Tell them that you miss them

When you tell them that you've missed them, they'll feel like what is he saying and if they like you, they will also tell you that they also miss you too or ask where you have been.

Send indirect messages like

• Is like I've started trusting you fully I think we go for a relationship
• Looks like I've started loving you! I've been thinking about you throughout my journey
• I've been missing you too much! I would like to prove it! If she asks what say that "You love him or her"

2. Just give a gift

Give your friend memorable and romantic gifts that express how you feel about them. Anything like valentine's gifts or a love necklace is perfect and non-expensive.

3. Say "there's something I want to tell you"

When you tell someone there's something you want to tell them, if they care, they'll want to listen if they don't then no big deal.

If she cares to listen, then tell her if she doesn't care then just know that she's not interested and move on.

4. Take the risk

Don't be afraid of taking the risk of asking someone out because it's just only two answers; positive or negative. 

Take it like gambling and never believe and focus on the Yes that you think he or she will say but focus more on the no.

It's never bad to think positively but being aware that she might say no is to your advantage because it helps you remain strong and you won't be disappointed.

If they want it they might say yes or let me think about it but if they don't they'll reject it. It's not bad because he or she is not the only girl in this world.

Important notice

• Don't be too emotional; always love yourself much and think of yourself first so that you won't be manipulated.
• After asking someone out for the first time and they say no; don't take it as a problem just take it as an agreement. 
• Don't hate your friend just because they don't want to date you; enjoy your own life and stay healthy. They will be surprised how great you'll become without them.
• The first no is not enough; if you have the intuition that the relationship is possible keep trying and showing love until they start to give you a chance.

Being friends with someone you love is not easy, but it is possible. It requires a lot of patience, understanding, and self-awareness. 

You need to be honest with yourself and with your friend about your feelings, while also respecting their boundaries and feelings. 

Conclusion

Being friends with someone you love is not easy, but it is possible. But expressing your feelings and making things clear can make things work between both of you. If someone refuses to be in a relationship with you, life goes on.

You need to be honest with yourself and with your friend about your feelings, while also respecting their boundaries and feelings.  You may need to take a step back and reevaluate your friendship, or you may need to take a leap of faith and confess your feelings. 

Whatever you do, remember that you are not alone, and that there are others who have gone through the same experience.